
So today I was lucky enough to tune into a particularly interesting episode of The Tyra Banks Show. The topic of the show was “Is Gay The New Black?” It was not the first time I heard the question asked, I have fought with many a gay man about this very topic, in the past I have been a very stanch member of the opposing crowd arguing that while there are clear parallels, being gay and being black are two very different animals, my general point being that a person does not have to know your gay, but theirs nothing you can do about the color of your skin. So the concept of being judged on your sexual preference was inherently different. Easily refutable I know, but I think deep down inside I was wrestling with the question of whether or not homosexuality was a choice or a birth status. I was wondering if it were reasonable for gay people to repress their longings and do what was necessary to fit into society. It would certainly be easier, at least in some lights. Sure you would spend a lifetime repressing your innermost fantasies and desires…sure their would always be a part of you unhappy and dreaming of life the way it could have been, but…whatever! I mean, you would do what your supposed to do, marry a member of the opposite sex, have a few rug rats, move to the suburbs, become a deacon at the church, hide your gay porn in the attic, in a broken floor board underneath the Christmas tree and one day when no one expects it jump off a fucking bridge. What’s wrong with that? Isn’t sacrifice at the root of everyone’s American dream? Don’t straight men have to sacrifice their insatiable, dirty, animal-esque, sex drives in exchange for monotony… I mean monogamy? And don’t straight woman have to give up their ownership of their bodies in order to fit seamlessly into the dogmatic idealism of our patriarchal misogynistic culture? So I wondered to myself what gives us gays the unmitigated gull to think the we could have our proverbial cake and eat it too???
Then Miss California opened her big watermelon splash lip gloss soaked lips and forced my eyes wide open ( which pissed me off because I was very comfortable on my little fence of self hatred) Her comments (however trite and downright inarticulate) made me realize that the fundamental problem with this issue…beyond religion or moral reasoning….is the violation of the creed that this country is built upon, the right for each of us to have the right to pursuit life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. Keyphrase: PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS. How can I pursue happiness when I’m being persecuted and punished for who I choose to love? When suicidal self loathing seems like a viable option? When I’m being denied the right to choose the person I love as my lawful partner? It was only then that I realized that while gay can’t be the new black (for the simple fact the blacks are the new are the blacks) the two do sit dangerously close together on the roster of communities fucked over royally by the American Dream Machine!!!! Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr wrote about laws and justice from inside a jail cell after being unjustly arrested for illegal parading. He wrote, in his famous essay Letters From a Birmingham Jail, “An unjust law is a code that a numerical or power majority group compels a minority group to obey but does not make binding on itself. This is difference made legal. By the same token, a just law is a code that a majority compels a minority to follow and that it is willing to follow itself” In this case the numerical majority is straight America. A country who upholds marriage as a sacred union of two souls, and yet denies all that decorated indulgence to other members of society, the only proper way to deny gays the right to marry would be to make marriage itself illegal( which with divorce and domestic abuse rates as high as they are may just be a good idea) but as long as one group of tax-paying Americans have a right that another group is denied, there is injustice!!!!! I’m not sure if The Tyra Show was a repeat or if it was a new show shot in lieu of the recent situation with Miss California, but I certainly think it was severely relevant. We are on the cusp of a new civil rights revolution. It is time for the gays to demand emancipation from the strongholds of arbitrary traditions that have took refuge in cowardly hiding behind the thin veil of religion. Traditions that are rooted in fear, rhetoric and religious ambiguity . It is time for us to unite. It is time for us to understand and force the world to understand that marriage is only part of the issue. We will no longer be afraid to walk down the street, we will no longer be forced to lie about who we are to be accepted by you. We will no longer sit idly by as our young members are harassed in schools so bad that they can see no other way out of their misery than suicide. The denial of our right to marry is also the denial of our rights to be who we are, it is a statement to the rest of society that we are defective, that our desire for the privileges bestowed upon every other member of society is unreasonable(even prisoners are allowed to marry in jail.) That our insistence of social and civil justice is a cancer on the heart of America. These ideas are evil and they are enablers for the hateful, ungodly and un-American treatment we suffer everyday, it will no longer be tolerated. One of the issues I always had with the idea of gay being the new black was that I felt it was an opportunistic, exploitative and condescending ploy by the middle class gay white propaganda machine to put itself in line with the black civil rights struggle in order to foster sympathetic whites and bamboozle apathy from the black community for their largely racist and exclusive agendas, in short…I wasn’t down with it!!! I still have some of those feelings and I do believe the gay community, like the black community have lot “house cleaning” to do. But first I think its important that we do see the parallels in the situation. It’s important that black people understand that conserving and respecting our social progress depends heavily on not participating in the persecution of other minority groups, Martin Luther King, Jr said “ Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.” We must remember it was not long ago that the color of our skin dictated who we could marry, our right to vote, where we could live and where we could go. We also must not forget that the bible was used to justify slavery, for we were once the descendants of Ham.
What is true at the end of the day is that people will always have their objections to many factors of other peoples lives…I don’t think people should were polyester or talk with their mouths full or use the bible as a weapon, but I also think people should have the right to exercise their beliefs. I do not however think those opinions should hold the power to prevent other people legal and natural rights to happiness, family and liberty. We (gays) must fight until “by any means necessary” our rights are respected and upheld. But we also want the straight world to know we would much rather sit down and have brunch and discuss our differences with dignity and candor. After all the center of this conversation is something we can all agree is the must beautiful and essential thing in the universe……..love.